Children and parents Essays - Parenting, Childhood, Friendship

Parents are the closest people for children in the world. They are best friends for us. They are everything for me. These close people deserve not only respect but also all love from all heart. Not getting the respect of children is one of the major family problems of modern world. In their pursuit to a bright career parents are actually forgetting the art of nurturing children in a healthy way. You will often find parents complaining about the disobedience. Most of the married children rarely respect their parents. They feel that parents are just there to snatch their marital bliss. Therefore they want to live alone. They are unable to give love and respect to their parents. Actually the ball is in parents? court and they must know how to get the love and respect of their children. Do not handicap your children by making their lives easy. Today most of the parents make this mistake. They try their best to provide all the facilities and luxuries to their children consequently they make them handicapped who always want to depend on their parents. In future if they don?t get from their parents what they have gone habitual to they rebel or disobey. From a very early age parents should teach their children the value of hard life and train them for it too. The best source of communication between a parent and a child is talking. Talk to them often and on various subjects. It will help them to mature psychologically. They can also clear their doubts. Especially small children are very fond of talking to parents. It helps them grown in a healthy and confident way. I studies many families and found that where there was no talking environment children mostly suffered from lack of confidence. Every child has some problems. If you are careful to their problems and help your child to solve it they will respect you more and understand your problems too. If parents make them like a bulldozer who is always pushing without understanding the relevance of anything the children won?t be able to develop any love for them. If there problems are understood and solved the bond between the two generations become strong and inseparable. The world is moving fast, competition is crushing and children need the help of their parents almost at every step. They want their parents to be their best friends who can understand their feelings and talk to them like friends. Children have a deep desire to express freely. In case parents are not ready to become friends children find friends outside. Those friends may be even bad and spoil the children. Your children may be intelligent but they are inexperienced and need your guidance so often. If parents are able to provide wise guidance children feel much relaxed. They know their parents can guide them through the tides of life with their knowledge and experience. It invokes their confidence that their career will be bright. Although it is good to be great friends of your children parents must also be ready to wield a stick of toughness if needed. There are children who are unable to move ahead or keep discipline till they are pushed or have a fear of parents. It is never necessary to beat them or punish them hard by any other method. Simple punishments now and then and an attitude of determination can infuse a fear in children to help them make a better career. Many parents still agree to this old proverb: spare the rod and spoil a child. Even animals can understand the language of love and care so why can?t the children who are educated and wise. Any form of physical punished or beating may leave permanent scars on the psychology of the children. It will definitely dampen their enthusiasm for learning. Children who are beaten severely either become rebellion or develop psychological diseases. And fear created by a rod is often counter-productive. It is practical approach to life. In spite of heading toward idealism the need of a practical approach to life must be understood. Many parents invest so much in the development of their children that they are left with